Resources and FAQ

If you're asking this question, therapy can likely help. You don't have to wait until things feel "bad enough" - counseling is most effective before problems become overwhelming. Consider therapy if you're repeating the same relationship patterns, feeling stuck despite your best efforts, or if emotional struggles are affecting your daily life, work, or relationships. Many people benefit from professional support even when functioning well, as therapy provides tools and insights that self-help alone often cannot.

This is very common. Even if your partner isn't ready, you can start with individual relationship therapy to work on your own patterns and responses. Often, when one person begins changing positively, it shifts the entire relationship dynamic and the reluctant partner becomes more open to joining. Individual work also helps you communicate your needs more effectively and determine whether couples therapy becomes necessary for your relationship's health.

Many clients notice some positive shifts within the first few sessions as you begin practicing new tools and gaining insights. Deeper pattern changes typically develop over 3-6 months of consistent work, though everyone's timeline is unique. The length depends on factors like your goals, the complexity of issues, your openness to change, and how actively you apply what you learn between sessions. Remember, therapy is an investment in lifelong skills, not a quick fix.

I offer private pay sessions at $125 for individuals and $160 for couples. While I don't directly accept insurance, I can provide detailed receipts and documentation for you to submit to your insurance company for potential out-of-network reimbursement. Many clients find they can use their Health Savings Account (HSA) or Flexible Spending Account (FSA) for therapy expenses.

Individual relationship therapy focuses on your personal patterns, attachment style, and healing from past wounds that affect how you approach relationships. It's perfect for singles working on dating patterns or individuals who want to address their own triggers and responses. Couples therapy involves both partners working together on communication, conflict resolution, and relationship dynamics. Both can be valuable, and sometimes people do individual work before or alongside couples therapy.

Different therapeutic approaches work for different people and problems. My specialized training in trauma-informed relationship therapy, combined with approaches like Imago, Schema Therapy, and Attachment-Based methods, may offer new tools and insights that previous therapy didn't provide. Additionally, the timing and your readiness for change can significantly impact therapy effectiveness. I encourage you to discuss your previous experiences so we can tailor our approach to be most helpful for you.

Sessions are conversational and collaborative, not like lying on a couch while someone takes notes silently. We'll talk about what's happening in your life and relationships, explore patterns you want to change, and practice new tools together. I might teach you specific techniques like communication exercises or grounding strategies. You'll get "homework" between sessions to practice what we discuss. The goal is active skill-building, not just venting or analyzing problems.

Absolutely. This pattern often stems from unconscious attractions based on childhood experiences and attachment wounds. Through therapy, we'll explore what draws you to certain types of people, heal the underlying wounds that create these attractions, and help you develop the security to recognize and be attracted to healthier partners. You'll learn to date from a place of wholeness rather than trying to fill emotional gaps through relationships.